When the conversation needs to happen
But you just know it is going to end in a fight....
I used to prepare for a hard conversation for weeks
I would write my part out
Memorize it
Rehearse it
Run it by someone
Edit it
Plan for possible responses and memorize accordingly
Didn't work.
Because as important as the words are
The feeling behind the words is infinitely more important
Trying to dress up and layer sugar and pretty words over top of
Frustration
Blame
Justification and
Defensiveness
Does. Not. Work.
It flavors every word you say.
Create a connecting conversation by coming at it from a space that is clean.
Switch blame for empowerment
Frustration for calm
Justification for confidence and
Defensiveness for peace
And THEN see the words that come from your mouth
Calm and unrehearsed
And make a "difficult" conversation not difficult at all
By changing only one person.
The one you truly do control.
YOU.
What are some thoughts you can choose that help you feel
Empowerment instead of blame?
Calm instead of frustrated?
Confident instead of justified?
Peaceful instead of defensive?
Need help coming up with some peace in a relationship with conflict?
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