When Someone Is Hating
Updated: Aug 10, 2021
How can we take good action for change without tapping into the hate, offense, and judgement we are opposed to?
This is a strong place to take action from.
Oftentimes we finally take action when we get angry enough to make a change.
But Einstein had a point when he said, "Everything is energy and that's all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. This is not philosophy. It is physics."
And Carl Jung's "What you resist persists".
Using anger, offense, outrage to fuel action in hopes of generating unity, peace, and acceptance just do not work together.
It makes more of the same.
If we try to wait until they act differently to begin acting from peace, love, and calm, we join the roller coaster ride of reactivity.
Reacting to the lack of love, the uncertainty, the perceptions, the lack of self-awareness in others is a recipe for uncertainty, lack of awareness, and a feeling of being out of control (unless I can control them).
And sitting in feelings of hate, anger, offense, judgement, which is kind of like punishing ourselves for the actions of others since we don't have the power to make them feel it.
And if we could would it really help?
We are so used to thinking that if I just point out how strongly I disapprove they will finally change.
Or shame them or blame them into new action.
It just doesn't work and it's exhausting.
The math of changing how we feel is simple...but it isn't easy.
But changing ourselves to generate action from a place that feels so much better than hate, anger, offense is work we can do ourselves...for ourselves...and the world benefits.
Because the last thing we need is more hate, am I right?