"You owe me that much"
"They owe me respect"
And other flavors of "they owe me"
Are super common ways of thinking that get us into frustrating territory.
Because when we are feeling disrespected or deprived of proper treatment, etc. the only way to feel better is to get them to pay up, right?
Do we really want good behavior to be contingent upon exchange?
Or do we want it to be something we offer because that is who we are and that is what we do?
Here are the nuts and bolts of moving away from kind behavior based on exchange and toward kind behavior because it is a characteristic of who we are.
Where boundaries and unconditional love come together like peanut butter and jelly.