Resources usually focus on what the other person can or should do to make you feel secure or loved...
But are you expecting someone else to do something you aren't doing yet?
Loving you regardless?
It starts there.
In a world filled with external pressures and expectations, it's easy to lose sight of the most important relationship of all: the one we have with ourselves.
We don't recognize how often we are going to another person, or outside thing, to make us whole....
But they can't.
Whether you're navigating challenging relationships with others or struggling with self-doubt and insecurities, the key to true happiness and fulfillment lies in cultivating a strong, loving relationship with yourself.
So, what's the secret to a successful relationship with yourself? It's simple yet profound
Be the one you can always count on.
Navigating Challenging Relationships
We've all experienced the ups and downs of relationships – whether it's with a partner, friend, or family member.
These challenges are harder to manage when we feel like no one is in our corner.
We spend mental energy feeling terrible about ourselves
And then blaming them
We need compassion.
Someone who will love us no matter what and kindly guide us through something we have never done before.
Navigating relationships.
Of course we aren't going to be great at it all of the time!
Challenging Relationship with Yourself
Perhaps the most challenging relationship of all is the one we have with ourselves.
Self-doubt, negative self-talk, and unrealistic expectations can erode our self-esteem and prevent us from living authentically.
Acceptance, peace, and love doesn't come from how the other person chooses to feel, think, or act toward you.
It's time to let go of the harsh judgments and embrace yourself with compassion and kindness to change EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE.
Be the One You Can Always Count On
Instead of seeking a change of feelings, like feeling approved of or secure, to come from external sources, learn to trust yourself and your intuition.
This means
setting boundaries that honor your needs and values,
speaking up for yourself when necessary, and
practicing self-care and self-compassion daily.
forgiving yourself for past mistakes and
embracing your flaws as part of what makes you beautifully human.
Cultivating Self-Trust and Confidence
When you become the one you can always count on, you cultivate a deep sense of self-trust and confidence that transcends external circumstances.
You no longer rely on others to validate your worth or define your happiness because you know that your value comes from within.
Imagine your worst fears for just a moment.
They all involve feeling something hard.
What if I lose my child?
What if my spouse leaves?
What if I lose my health?
We can't control those things most of the time
But what do we desperately need to hear if the worst happens?
I've got you.
I'll be here.
We will figure this out.
I will stay here with you to the very end.
I will not hurt you or abuse you with blame or regret.
I am your friend.
I love you.
You can be that for you.
These moments of peace and compassion can be found it in the quiet moments of self-reflection and self-discovery, and prayer.
You can ask God to help you become your biggest supporter.
To be kind to yourself and love others AS YOU LOVE YOU.
Love you well, Friend.
You deserve all of the love and kindness available.
When you embrace your strengths and weaknesses alike, knowing that they are all part of what makes you uniquely you...you have a friend forever.
The Journey of Self-Love
The journey to a successful relationship requires a willingness to embrace vulnerability.
Can you be the safe place to be vulnerable?
To be a train wreck or a hero that day?
With each step you take towards self-love and acceptance, you'll discover a newfound sense of freedom and joy that transcends any external circumstance.
Be the one you can always count on, and the rest can fall apart...
But chances are....life will go so much more smoothly, with much less fear if you refuse to beat yourself when you are down.
Being down becomes less of a threat.
With love and empowerment,
Jenn
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