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How to Stop Criticizing Quickly



One Step to Transforming Your Marriage Without Leaving


If you're tired of the unhealthy patterns plaguing your marriage -

  • Criticism

  • Emotional withdrawal

  • Resentment

  • Disconnection


If you desperately want change, but you don't want to abandon the relationship and family you've built...


Here is one thing you can start doing right now to make one, major change.


There's a path forward, and it starts with two simple but profound ideas: Requests and expectations.


You may have fallen into the destructive cycle of making demands of your spouse, then feeling angry, hurt or resentful when they failed to read your mind and meet your unstated (and sometimes stated) expectations.


Or, you may have erred in the opposite direction - remaining silent about your needs and desires, sacrificing your voice and sense of self in an attempt to keep the peace at all costs.


When you are clear on what you want and expect

Ask for it in a kind, respectful way

AND KNOW HOW TO EITHER SET A BOUNDARY TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF OR DO THE WORK ON YOUR MIND TO FREE YOURSELF OF RESENTMENT

You have a recipe for increased connection and understanding


And if they don't or can't meet a reasonable request?

That's information, not a personal failure.

It allows you to reset your expectations accordingly, staying grounded in your self-worth rather than imploding in resentment.


At the end of the day, your spouse's role isn't to make you feel a certain way.


Their job= decide which of your needs and desires they can honor.

Your job= communicate those needs and desires and make a decision about what to do if the answer is no.


With clear requests and realigned expectations, you eliminate the power struggles.

You create the opportunity for true understanding, compromise and closeness to emerge.

The anger can soften into care, the criticism into compassion.


You CAN leave the toxic relationship patterns behind, without leaving the person you married.

By mastering the art of requesting and respecting stated needs

To eliminate criticism and resentment


How do you stop criticizing quickly?

Make a request instead.

The doors to more connection...

Using your voice with confidence and care.


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