Making Decisions
Each relationship we have
Especially marriage
Involves making strong decisions.
Decisions about how the kids are raised and what will be done if you disagree
Decisions about intimacy and how you will deal with different levels of desire
Decisions about money and how you will handle it when he doesn't spend like you do
And decisions, every single day
Of whether you want to stay "in" your marriage or not
Emotionally and physically.
Did you know that how you choose to see your marriage is a decision that greatly affects your marriage??
"We are struggling."
"We have marriage problems."
"We have a terrible marriage."
THESE ARE NOT FACTS
They are thoughts that create an emotion
That drive an action
That create a result
In one of the most important relationships in your life.
Pay attention to what you are thinking because those thoughts have an impact on your relationships.
Because when you are thinking those things you begin to feel
Sad
Frustrated
Trapped
Angry
Inadequate
And THAT becomes the space that you are making those big decisions from.
If you are thinking those things about your marriage
You are normal.
You have never been taught that these are not facts.
But you can literally choose not to believe that you are stuck.
Or even struggling.
Try this:
If your marriage was not struggling...because the phrase was banned from the english language...what could it be?
We are finding out what doesn't work for us.
We are in a "pre-growth" stage.
We are choosing what is worth working on right now.
We are in between how we used to do it and how we will do it better next.
We are gathering some insight.
Could this be true?
How would you feel if you believed those?
Hopeful?
Empowered?
How you show up in your marriage
Will be driven by a feeling
That is driven by one. simple. thought.
Is it a good one?
Because this is important
And you deserve a good relationship.
Whether you decide to stay married or not.
PS IF YOU NEED HELP UNDERSTANDING HOW TO CHANGE A THOUGHT THAT FEELS 100% TRUE, I CAN HELP YOU. JUST CLICK THE BUTTON BELOW AND SIGN UP FOR A TIME TO TALK ABOUT HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE.