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  • Writer's pictureJenn

Making Decisions

Each relationship we have

Especially marriage

Involves making strong decisions.


  • Decisions about how the kids are raised and what will be done if you disagree

  • Decisions about intimacy and how you will deal with different levels of desire

  • Decisions about money and how you will handle it when he doesn't spend like you do


And decisions, every single day

Of whether you want to stay "in" your marriage or not

Emotionally and physically.


Did you know that how you choose to see your marriage is a decision that greatly affects your marriage??


"We are struggling."

"We have marriage problems."

"We have a terrible marriage."


THESE ARE NOT FACTS


They are thoughts that create an emotion

That drive an action

That create a result

In one of the most important relationships in your life.


Pay attention to what you are thinking because those thoughts have an impact on your relationships.


Because when you are thinking those things you begin to feel

Sad

Frustrated

Trapped

Angry

Inadequate


And THAT becomes the space that you are making those big decisions from.


If you are thinking those things about your marriage


You are normal.

You have never been taught that these are not facts.


But you can literally choose not to believe that you are stuck.

Or even struggling.


Try this:

If your marriage was not struggling...because the phrase was banned from the english language...what could it be?


We are finding out what doesn't work for us.

We are in a "pre-growth" stage.

We are choosing what is worth working on right now.

We are in between how we used to do it and how we will do it better next.

We are gathering some insight.


Could this be true?

How would you feel if you believed those?

Hopeful?

Empowered?


How you show up in your marriage

Will be driven by a feeling

That is driven by one. simple. thought.


Is it a good one?


Because this is important

And you deserve a good relationship.

Whether you decide to stay married or not.


PS IF YOU NEED HELP UNDERSTANDING HOW TO CHANGE A THOUGHT THAT FEELS 100% TRUE, I CAN HELP YOU. JUST CLICK THE BUTTON BELOW AND SIGN UP FOR A TIME TO TALK ABOUT HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE.





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