Inherited Coping Strategies
Do you find yourself handling challenging relationships the same way one of your parents did?
Or do you swing to an exact opposite approach?
Often someone who was raised by an explosive parent may swing to a very passive or non-confrontational approach to problem-solving in their relationships.
Stonewalling or people-pleasing or passive-aggression.
Or they may copy what they saw that seemed to work. Explosion.
There is a valid reason.
Before the age of 8 the brain is developing neuropathways and shortcuts to make decisions in the quickest, most efficient way possible.
It is carefully considering ways to avoid discomfort and cope with life.
The models you had growing up, have a huge impact on how those neuropathways developed.
If the habits and patterns that have been passed down your lines are not ones you want to keep...
You don't have to keep them.
You can change the neuropathways in your brain to create new patterns in your relationships
And new models for you kids to pass to the next generation.
But it takes work.
Right now I am training to do the Rim to Rim hike in the Grand Canyon.
I'm not just training to finish it...
I am training to be fit enough to help anyone in my group or on my path who may require it.
I want to feel capable of helping others.
Rather than an exhausted and helpless bystander.
I am willing to work harder to be a capable support in that situation.
This is how it works in our families.
Sometimes a family needs a cycle-breaker
Who is willing to do the work on themselves
To assist the ones coming next.
They have to work a little harder than the ones who were raised with different examples
Or those who continue doing it the same, ol' way
They have to believe in themselves enough to know that they are capable of change
And that their change can make a difference.
They believe the work is worth it.
Are you a cycle-breaker?
Are you willing to work hard on yourself?
Not to just tell them a better way...
but SHOW them another way of handling challenging relationships?
Chances are...you've already worked hard to change old patterns
But if you find the ones that are tough to change
That pop up in stressful moments as if you have no control
THIS is where a coach comes in.
I can help you identify where the interrupt needs to happen in old patterns
And HOW to interrupt it in a way that is healthy for you
And healthy for the ones watching you.
You are that influential
And you are that important
And you are worthy of something better than how you may have been raised
Click below to schedule an appointment to talk about how you can break th