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Girl Drama as an Adult

Updated: Apr 12

Do you ever find yourself caught in the whirlwind of girl drama, feeling like you've been transported back to your junior high days?

Ghosted, excluded, or gossiped about –

These experiences can leave us feeling frustrated, hurt, and wondering, "I'm too old for this, aren't I?"

"What is wrong with me?"

Spoiler alert: nothing.

But you CAN have a world free of girl drama.

It's a scenario many of us can relate to: navigating female relationships while trying to maintain our sanity and self-respect.

But what if I told you that instead of being dragged down by girl drama...

That girl drama can be a powerful catalyst for quick change.

You could use it to bring you up to a higher version of yourself?

A better friend to you and a better friend to others.

Here's the truth: You can find girls using gossip, ghosting, exclusion in every age category.

Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or 50s, you're not immune to the dynamics of social politics and interpersonal conflicts.

But the good news is that you have the power to change the narrative you probably started back in junior high school.

Girl Drama as an Adult: I'm Too Old for This...Or Am I?

It's easy to dismiss girl drama as something reserved for teenagers, but the reality is that it can rear its head at any stage of life.

From workplace cliques to social circles, the dynamics may change, but the underlying issues remain the same: personal insecurity.

You might catch yourself thinking, "I'm too old for this drama,".

I say you are the PERFECT AGE to end it for good.

Life gives us chances to rewrite old scripts that are keeping us from truly belonging to ourselves and from happiness.

That means you have the chance to end unkind behavior to yourself and have a plan that does not involve tolerating poor behaviors from others.

Instead of being passive participants in the drama, it's time to take charge of the situation and

End. The. Rejection.

If You Don't Have Drama About Their Drama...There Is No Drama.

Think about it:

Drama only thrives when we allow it to consume our thoughts and emotions.

When we refuse to engage in gossip, petty arguments, or passive-aggressive behavior, we strip drama of its power.

When we refuse to make it mean that there is something wrong with us, we release the need to be everyone's flavor.

When we refuse to make it mean that there is something wrong with them, we stop trying to make the world fit our personal insecurities.

However, it's essential to acknowledge that detaching from drama doesn't mean ignoring it altogether.

(I'm sharing ways to do this on social media this follow so you don't miss out)

Instead, it's about reframing the situation and using it as an opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection.

You Can Become a Higher Version of Yourself by Using the Situation

Every interaction, no matter how trivial or unpleasant, offers a chance for growth and self-discovery.

When you find yourself entangled in girl drama, take a step back and ask yourself:

  • Who do I want to be BECAUSE of this experience?

  • How can I respond with grace and integrity?

  • What kind of friend do I want to be?

Instead of reacting impulsively, avoiding from fear, seeking revenge, or becoming exactly what you stand against

You can choose to respond in a completely new way.

You can use the situation as a catalyst for personal transformation, and emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient than ever before.

People Who Are Not Always Aware of What They Are Doing Become the Windows to Our Own Awareness

It's easy to villainize those who contribute to girl drama

Just this morning I felt a twinge of anger as I heard two women huddled talking about another woman.

I can use their behavior as a mirror to examine my own thoughts, beliefs, and actions.

I asked myself if I wanted to be like that? Contributing to girl drama by becoming angry at another woman and complaining that she wasn't how I thought she would be?


And so I chose to believe that people are doing the best they can to their level of awareness

And made a mental note that these are people who will most likely do the same to me. I'll choose other friends.

Are there areas where you can set healthier boundaries or communicate more effectively?

Are there underlying issues that need to be addressed within yourself or your relationships?

By embracing self-awareness and introspection, you can break free from the cycle of girl drama and cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections with others.

So, kind women everywhere...

Let's unsubscribe from girl drama once and for all.

Instead of being passive observers, let's become the people we wish others would be.

To ourselves and to others with kindness.

Have hard conversations with the people instead of having the easy, weakening conversations about them.

Let's rewrite the narrative and create a sisterhood built on support, empathy, and authenticity.

Not fake smiles and closed hearts.

With love and empowerment,


If you have ever torn yourself apart with the shame/blame cycle of girl drama:

There is something wrong with me...NO, there is something wrong with them

You are stuck in a breakable cycle.

You can completely love and accept yourself

You actually can be at perfect peace with the people around you

And get on with your life feeling happiness, belonging, and acceptance.

May I help you get there?

Just click on the button below to end girl drama FOREVER.

It's all about changing YOU. Not them.

They are always going to be there. Drama doesn't have to be.

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