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Get Out of the Rut

Updated: May 22

You don't even bother having the conversation with him anymore

Because you know exactly what he is going to say

You've heard it a hundred times

And you know what you are going to say back

You know how it will end and have decided it isn't worth the pain

And so you suck it up

Push down the resentment

Offer little hints and digs that you are not happy with how things are going

He becomes more frustrated

And on it goes.

A rut is a habit or pattern that is unproductive and dull and is very hard to get out of

It is well-worn and maintained by neuropathways with years of reinforcement

It feels hard because changing means you risk what you already have

It means giving up who you have been for who you want to be

The brain will resist. It will want to stay where it is easiest. In the rut.

But new results come from new decisions.

Here are some of the powerful decisions my clients intentionally make while coaching with me that I believe make the biggest, quickest changes

  • My relationship is worth overcoming my fears for

  • I choose to believe that I am worthy and capable of a bett