Get Out of the Rut
Updated: May 22

You don't even bother having the conversation with him anymore
Because you know exactly what he is going to say
You've heard it a hundred times
And you know what you are going to say back
You know how it will end and have decided it isn't worth the pain
And so you suck it up
Push down the resentment
Offer little hints and digs that you are not happy with how things are going
He becomes more frustrated
And on it goes.
A rut is a habit or pattern that is unproductive and dull and is very hard to get out of
It is well-worn and maintained by neuropathways with years of reinforcement
It feels hard because changing means you risk what you already have
It means giving up who you have been for who you want to be
The brain will resist. It will want to stay where it is easiest. In the rut.
But new results come from new decisions.
Here are some of the powerful decisions my clients intentionally make while coaching with me that I believe make the biggest, quickest changes
My relationship is worth overcoming my fears for
I choose to believe that I am worthy and capable of a bett