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Don't Wait Until Someday to Get Along Better

Updated: Jun 3



Three Things You Can Do Right Now to Enjoy Your Relationship Before

  • You get more sleep

  • The kids are out of the house

  • Your hormones magically increase your libido

  • The house is paid off


The truth is, the skills and habits that make life enjoyable are the low-hanging fruit opportunities that make it enjoyable when stress is off.


So, if you're tired of putting off relaxation and enjoyment together until "someday," I have good news for you.


Here are three things you can do right now to start enjoying marriage more.


1. Be Present in the Moment


One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is the gift of presence. Instead of constantly living in the future, strategizing about how it may be better or may be worse...

Or dwelling on past regrets and how things would be better right now if they had just gone differently...


Take a moment to breathe.

  • In and out.

  • Feel the chair or bed beneath you, supporting you.

  • Do a check-in with your body and find the places that feel no pain or discomfort.

  • Notice the people in your life right now that are HERE.

  • Listen to the sounds around you that let you know you are not alone. Voices, crickets, dogs barking, cars.


"But, Jenn. I don't like the here and now. Why would I want to stay here??" you may wonder.


Right now is all we are guaranteed.


What is beautiful about this moment here?


Since life is 50% amazing, 50% not...what are the amazing things here now that you would miss if they were gone?


Practice being fully present in the here and now.


  • Savor a delicious meal,

  • Take a leisurely walk in nature, or

  • Enjoy a heartfelt conversation with a loved one,

  • Relish the richness of the present moment


Don't leave it up to the gratitude fairy to do that work for you. Speaking of....


2. Cultivate Gratitude


Gratitude is the secret sauce to a fulfilling and joyful life – and it's a skill that we can practice at any age.


Take a few moments each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for – whether it's your health, your relationships, or the simple pleasures of life.

Joy and contentment abound in even the smallest of moments.


But you don't have to put up with things that are not good for you.

Feel free to cultivate gratitude for

  • the ability you have to say no

  • To set strong, loving boundaries

  • To have people in your life that teach you how to set boundaries

  • For the relationship you have with yourself that is so good, come what may, you have your back


3. Prioritize Self-Care

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to put self-care on the back burner.

"I don't have time" because a never-ending predicament because

spoiler alert

There will always be open loops

Always things that are not done.


If you were called by the hospital that someone you love was there needing you would you say you don't have time?


Or would you make time?


We make time for the things that are important to us.

Be that important to you.


As the saying goes, "If you don't make time for your wellness, you will be forced to take care of your sickness."


No more, exhaustion, Friend.


Set aside time each day to nourish your body, mind, and spirit.

  • Exercise,

  • Meditation,

  • Journaling,

  • Or simply indulging in a favorite hobby



Prioritize activities that bring you joy and replenish your energy reserves.


Practice Makes Perfect


Here's the truth: If you don't have the skills to enjoy life now, you won't magically acquire them when the stress is off.

In fact, when the stress is on is when we really learn how to communicate, figure out how to repair relationships, swap out old coping skills for new, healthy ones.


This is the perfect time to get your ready to live your best life

Regardless of what is going on.


You deserve your "someday" now.


Chat with me if you want to leave your old relationship...but keep your spouse or family member. Together we will:

  • Find the three, main things to ditch right away

  • Three things to start now instead

  • Make a plan that helps you get there now



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