Does this cause Hurt or Harm?
Knowing the difference between hurt and harm
Can mean the difference between success and failure
Part of our brain is there just to keep us alive
It is hypervigilant in it's quest for safety
It sees danger in discomfort
And the problem is....growing requires discomfort
(Just like working out at the gym)
Coaching teaches the process of knowing how to challenge your own thinking
To evaluate if this is actually something that will hurt you or harm you.
There is a difference.
When you get a tooth filled at the dentist it can hurt
But the actual harm came from the sugar
When discomfort creates growth...then it becomes worth the work.
When that primal brain does not want to do the work it often shuts down the thinking process by saying things like:
"I can't afford it" (versus I will work to figure out how)
"I need to talk to my partner" (instead of...I'm afraid I might fail so if he is on board I won't feel like it's all on my shoulders)
"I can't." (It could be a lot of work to see myself as being capable of that)
It is the adult equivalent of, "because I said so...."
What our parents used to tell us when they didn't want to talk about it.